Hi christine i havent read all the posts on here but i will add a small bit from my life here ,my father had chronic heart diseaese from about the age of 40 till his death 6 years ago from a failing heart valve .He was one of the first to undergo bypass surgery in the royal adelaide back in about 1977 i think it was ,unfortunately they were still learning about this procedure then , and well it was i think good but still learning . He was ok for a while then he started to get angina again at work one day after the operation and he lived with it for many years and had if i am correct one of those little red bottles with him all the time as the angina attacks became worse over time . In 1994 i was still in the army then and was summonsd to my C.O.'s office for a meeting to be told my father had again been admitted to the flinders medical centre where he was to undergo a heart bypass for the second time (this is where they first diganosed him in 1977 ) of course being the army they chucked me on a plane and flew me home that day . He went through this procedure and was placed in I.C.U which was the norm for recovery but my problem was i went in to see him and that was the end of my army career ,after seeing him there in a bed with all the pipes hanging out i said to my wifeof the time im out .The old bugger only lived on for another 18 years i only had 8 to get my army pension but you know something ? i would never have done a thing different he was my dad . Jerry hatrick summed it up pretty well in his comments heart surgery has come a long way since the first operations were performed in the late 70"s and now they dont even have to split you open to do a lot of the procedures , I understand how much of a worrying time it must be for you as i have been there myself ,with not one but two special people in this predicament . My old mum would ask to go with dad when he saw the specialist but only on a few occasions did she get to go as he would never tell the specialist if things were crook or not he would just battle on ,so i would say to you if you have the chance to go to the specialist do it because you might have some input that the specialist might need ,take care be strong and i hope all will be good for you and your family .